Counsellor Kweku Adumata, a life coach, marriage counsellor, and relationship expert, believes that Valentine’s Day celebrations should not be limited to sex or sexual activities.
He stated that the core value of Valentine’s Day is to show appreciation and care for loved ones and friends.
Speaking on Nyankonton Mu Nsem on Rainbow Radio 87.5FM, he said that the day provides an opportunity to strengthen relationships, celebrate each other, and the accomplishments you’ve achieved, rather than just sex.
He narrated that the day of love and affection, observed on February 14 every year, stems from the legend of St. Valentine, a Roman priest who defied Emperor Claudius II’s marriage ban.
To make the most of the celebration, he believes that we should focus on developing relationships with one another in stages, beginning with admiring the person and progressing to the like stage, then the love stage, which represents the future.
“The love I’m referring to is not sexual intercourse.” We’ve reduced the valentine to sexual intercourse. To provide some context for the Valentine’s Day story, it begins with the legend of St. Valentine, a Roman priest who defied Emperor Claudius II’s marriage ban.This reverend father defied the order and blessed a couple’s marriage, for which he was killed.
The bottom line is that this priest gave his life for the man and his wife, so it was deemed appropriate that he blessed a marriage between two people and died as a result of it. So the celebration was intended to honour his memory. So, Valentine means how much you are willing to sacrifice for me. We witnessed Jesus Christ sacrificing his life for humanity. If you claim to love me, how far are you willing to go for me?
He maintained that “expressing love is about the future, not just sexual pleasures, so don’t let us use this concept to engage in sex. That is not the focus of the celebration. If I love you, I should be willing to make sacrifices for your future. To love means being willing to make sacrifices, because loving someone will cost you, and you should be prepared for that. Loving someone does not imply pulling down someone’s trousers and having sex”.
By: Rainbowradioonline.com/Ghana
